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I think it's something a lot of members of this community have in common. Not everyone for sure but I definitely relate to this. I'm very attracted to the idea of fatness and seeing and experiencing fat visually and physically.. and while for me sexual gratification and touch goes along with with it, like I enjoy having sex and all that, when it actually comes time to get down to it actually doing anything its more like a chore even if it is nice and feels good and im really into it.
For example, I'm not a big fan of touching pussy and I don't really like it at all but I'll do it because I want my partner to feel good, at which point im more attracted/turned on by her reactions and her movement than by the fact that im touching her down there... Actually putting 'it' in is different though because it's intimate enough that I can ignore what I dislike about it.
And it's awkward saying all that while knowing I'm without a doubt straight and only into women (all, not just bbw/ssbbw). It's a weird thing which I recognize. I don't know if it's similar to what others feel and experience or not but it's somewhat true for me.

I feel the same way. I've even tried to include past partners but I didn't like it.

Ace people are in pretty much every kink and fetish. And what is kink if not a niche adult hobby?

I mean, at the end of the day, feedism is about eating a lot of food and maybe getting fat. If that's not aro/ace friendly, idk what is.

Completely agree. The kink is highly individualized anyway. For some people, it's about fat, other people enjoy the gain more than fat itself, and others love the actual act of stuffing. For me it's all three. The point is, the kink is so highly individualized, people will engage with it in very different ways. And it doesn't have to be sexual by any means.

What is a fetish?

This thread is reopened. There was a lot of off-topic sniping, slapfighting, and bickering that I deleted. Re-opening the thread is not an invitation to re-start that conversation. If you were part of the slap fight, just walk away so the thread can get back to the original topic. Make your own thread on that topic if you want.

I remember having thoughts and feelings about feeding and gaining when I was a child. Maybe these feelings were sexual, but I didn't recognize them as such and it seems to me now they were different than sexual feelings. All I can say is there was something magical about them. It was also a bit frustrating, because there was nowhere to go with these feelings.

After adolescence it was different--the feelings were definitely sexual.

I don't know if these childhood feelings were anything like being an asexual adult, but somehow they remind me of each other.

I was a very late bloomer and when it happened it was involving weight gain. I never felt any arousal from the usual content and in fact, I felt estranged by my peers for the simple fact I would not feel anything from a "hot" person.

It took me until nearly a couple years ago when I found out that asexuality is perfectly normal and I shouldn't consider myself broken for that. I don't like intimacy, and sexual content is something I would rather stay away.

But that was never the case with feedism. I would always go back to it and seeing other people enjoying their food with gusto would fill me with a sense of calm that this was what I desired all along.

I ended up gaining some myself but rather than hating it, I ended up discovering my self love that I never had my entire life. I enjoy my life now, more than ever.

Similar to this, receiving nudes does absolutely nothing for me, sexually, rather it kinda turns me away. But when someone mentions anything about feeling like a slob, or stuffing their face I just activate.
It's so confusing and sometimes frustrating because I don't want to open up and be like "That's so hot" and then get cast out because of my specific interest.
If that makes any sense haha